Love is an infinite thing no matter where it’s coming from. It shifts and changes over time, but gives each person who feels it a certain glow. When you love the people around you it shows you how much you are willing to do for them just because you care. Caring for someone means you will do something for someone without expecting anything in return. Selfless love means you don’t care what happens to you as long as the other person is safe.
All our lives we search for love outside ourselves when in fact it’s been inside us all along. When you start with loving yourself, you start to radiate love to others sharing it with them. There are so many ways to love and be loved. Sometimes there are milestones someone has to hit before they truly love who they are. Even I struggle with loving myself sometimes. The is thing, you don’t have to love yourself all at once. Pick little things you like about yourself and keep telling yourself that. Everyday add something to that list. Eventually it will become a habit for you to love yourself.
Living life is a series of trial and errors. Nobody is perfect, so be patient with yourself. Take the time to love yourself no matter the flaws you think you have. Chances are someone one day may love the flaws you have because they make you unique to them. Don’t ever suppress your own glow to make someone else happy. Someone will love all sides of you no matter the flaws you have. Love means overlooking your flaws to see the true beauty underneath.
For the longest time I struggled with loving who I am just to please others. The thing that I realized is I have to live with myself everyday not the people who are bringing me down. I gave them the power to do that because I didn’t love myself enough to tell them to stop. Everyday I would think positive thoughts about myself, and it became a habit to love myself.
You must make it a habit to love yourself no matter who is in your life. Whether they are there for a season or for a longer amount of time. At the end of the day you are the one that has to look in the mirror. You decide on who and what you allow into your life. I did and it made my life so much better. Now I love myself regardless of who is in my life.
Seeking love outside of yourself is great, but not when it comes at the cost of losing who you are as a person. If someone truly loves you for you, they will never make you feel insecure about who you are. They will love and care about you because you have those flaws. I have watched so many people in relationships give up who they are for the other person. It causes them to lose pieces of who they are. Never allow yourself to lose pieces of who you are just to please others. If they don’t accept you for who you are now, then they don’t deserve to be in your life. You know what you will accept and what you won’t accept. Always follow your intuition when it comes to these things.
Sometimes to grow we have to change and move, but not when it takes away your happiness. If someone truly loves you they will always try to make you happy because they like to see you smile. But at the end of the day you have to make yourself happy no matter what. Your happiness comes from within. That’s why self love is so important. It allows you to know what you do and don’t deserve. You deserve so much more than what someone who doesn’t care can give you.
Above all else love yourself first, that is something I always hear from others. It’s so true, people will always follow your lead. If you don’t respect yourself some people can sense it and they will take advantage of it. You have to allow yourself to know what you will let someone say or do to you. The first time they do it that’s when you see their true colors. Like the saying goes fool me once shame on you, fool me twice shame on me. The longer you let someone do you wrong the more they will keep doing because you as a person allowed them to. This gives them a signal that you are okay with what they are doing bad to you, and you will allow it to keep happening.
I myself have went through times where someone I met has done me wrong or ghosted me and then they come back saying I am sorry for it. I give them another chance and they do it again. The thing is people know what they do, and if you allow it they will walk all over you , or me in that case. I didn’t love myself enough to notice that I deserved better. Now I know and learned a lesson from it. I will never again let someone take away my self worth just because they think I will let them. You have to be strong enough to know that your self worth is so much more than what someone else can give you if it’s done the wrong way. Moral of the story here, respect yourself enough to know what you deserve.
Yes love is infinite, but it can also be blind. It blinds us to what someone else is doing wrong. So be careful with who you share yourself with. Not everyone has the best intentions towards you. It’s always hard to know what someone’s intentions are towards you.
All in all there’s my rant on love and what we deserve. I hope you like it. Feel free to comment any points I missed in this post.